{"id":601,"date":"2022-02-17T15:55:05","date_gmt":"2022-02-17T22:55:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/nicoleroy.net\/blog\/?p=601"},"modified":"2022-02-17T15:55:05","modified_gmt":"2022-02-17T22:55:05","slug":"ill-tell-you-how-an-rbmk-reactor-explodes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nicoleroy.net\/blog\/?p=601","title":{"rendered":"I’ll tell you how an RBMK reactor explodes"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

“Sex” by Cheat Codes
Do it on the counter, we’ll fuck for hours (let’s talk about sex)
Any way you want it, you can have it
Talk about sex, baby
Do it in the shower, pussy power

“This Woman\u2019s Work” by Kate Bush
I should be crying, but I just can’t let it show
I should be hoping, but I can’t stop thinking
Of all the things I should’ve said
That I never said
All the things we should’ve done
That we never did
All the things I should’ve given
But I didn’t
Oh, darling, make it go
Make it go away

I was holding my breath for a week.

I still acted like I had a dick. I wouldn\u2019t let myself look at my vagina. The packing felt like it was just tucked, I was just in \u201ctoo long of a tuck\u201d and I was sure the instant the packing was gone, my dick would be back.

The packing came out. Oh my god it was like a clown-car. Just kept going and going and going. And then it was out. And then the catheter was out. And then I peed, with my junk in the configuration it should have been in for 43 years. And it was amazing. I didn\u2019t cry yet. Then the PT person came in, and we dilated. I had a mirror to hold up to my vagina. Seeing it, that was intense.

In the car on the way home from the hospital, I drove. I felt so good. I felt like me, a new me, in a way I had never imagined. Mental barriers that I didn\u2019t know existed came crashing down left and right. Certain behaviors that were \u201cwrong\u201d when I was a boy, I started to realize that they were right, they were default, they were \u201cjust how it is for a girl.\u201d Wearing a bikini. Wanting to be seen, wanting guys to want<\/em> me, wanting to be a mom. I don\u2019t want to be essentialist, but girl let me tell you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To have these mental loops in your head playing for your entire life, suppressing things, even when you have transitioned, still suppressing things and behaviors. I couldn\u2019t talk like me before. All of a sudden, without effort, I started to be able to talk like me, how I knew I always should have talked. To have that mental bandwidth suddenly freed up by this situation. My mind grasped for an analogy.

The only thing I could see was technicians trying to avert some crisis. Desperately flipping switches to try to save the situation. And they can\u2019t, because some of the switches are too small for their fingers to flip, little dip switches. So they get out the tweezers, but it\u2019s not fast enough. And then in walks the doctor, with a giant flat piece of plastic, and just flips all those switches from \u201coff\u201d to \u201con\u201d with one motion. And then the day is saved. More than that. A day that has never existed before in the history of the earth now exists for me.

This torture loop of \u201cthis thing I\u2019m doing right now is not what a woman would be doing\u201d is gone. I don\u2019t have to think that any more. I don\u2019t have to metathink about the thing that I have to hide any more. This is the biggest gift anyone could ever receive. Is this what it feels like to be a human being? Oh my god. I have been missing out.

I cried so much. This could have happened years ago and I would have been pain-free. Girl, let me tell you that it couldn\u2019t. It took the length of time it needed to take and not a second more or less.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

“Sex” by Cheat CodesDo it on the counter, we’ll fuck for hours (let’s talk about sex)Any way you want it, you can have itTalk about sex, babyDo it in the shower, pussy power “This Woman\u2019s Work” by Kate BushI should be crying, but I just can’t let it showI should be hoping, but I can’t … <\/p>\n

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